Homemade Prince Charming

This is a old post from my old blog, hope you like it.

In today's society we have two type of guys, we have the asshole and Mr. Prince Charming (at least that's how I classify them).

Every female has come across "the asshole" once upon a time, we all have. When we meet "the asshole" we are automatically attracted to him (I'm speaking from prior experience); Sometimes we are attracted to this guy because of his physical appearance, while other times we are attracted to him because we want to be considered "special" (You'll understand what I mean as you continue to read).

When females meet "the asshole" he's the way he is because of past experiences, he wasn't raised the right way, he has no morals, or he hasn't matured as yet.

Many females believe that they're misunderstood by the people they're surrounded by (that can be true sometimes), so they try to figure them out because they think that one day this guy can be their "Prince Charming".

Many females believe that if a guy has done every other female wrong (including her) but decided to change his attitude for her (which takes forever), she's special; so she puts all her time and energy into him and their relationship and does whatever she can to get him to change.

What she doesn’t realize is the time she has wasted trying to change one guy to be considered “special“, a “Prince Charming” has passed her by. If she would have went for “Prince Charming” there wouldn't be a need for her to invest so much time into trying to turn him into her perfect guy, because he's already perfect (or close to it).

She would't have had to endure pain trying to get someone to change for her. "Mr. Prince Charming" would automatically consider her “special”; he would do anything to make her feel and understand how special she is.

At the end she would realize that she’s not special, she just tolerated something a next woman wouldn't tolerate.

What I’m trying to tell all my female readers is very clear (in case you don't understand), STOP wasting your time, STOP tolerating bullshit, STOP allowing men to hurt you, it’s not WORTH it.

"Prince Charming" does exist (despite what some people think), there’s no need to try to make your own. No one wants to go through pain and much more just to get a guy to change for them. No one wants a homemade prince charming.

Sundays

I thought about another special post! Every sunday I'm going to post a photo of the week, hopefully I'll find some creative photos to post every sunday!

Photo of The Week [Rihanna]

My favorite singer, Rihanna; She looks stunning in this pic.

Failed Relationships

I was on the phone with one of my friends today and she asked a question that most of us can’t answer, why do relationships fail? I don’t know how most of you would answer this, if you could, but I think relationships come to an end because of unrealistic expectations, trust issues, insecurities, and bad communication skills.

Unrealistic Expectations
Many people get into relationships thinking it will solve all their problems (come on we all know that is not realistic). Some people get into relationships expecting everything to happen the way they want it to, but life doesn't work like that, neither does relationships. We put so much time and energy into a relationship that if things don't go as planned we begin to feel betrayed and take it out on our partners. The way someone is raised as a child can also lead to having unrealistic expectations in a relationship; you see an example of true love from your parents and expect to have the same type of relationship that they had. Many people also look for someone to fulfill their needs and when those needs are not fulfilled they are no longer happy in their relationship.

Trust Issues
It's impossible to have a relationship without trust. Trust is the foundation of a relationship; without trust your relationship is doomed from the beginning to the end. It's hard to build trust if your heart was once broken, but we have to try to leave the past in the past to build a better future (easier said than done, trust me I know). There's no way to avoid having trust in a relationship; if you can't trust your partner that's a sign, it's over, no need to be in a relationship without trust.

Insecurities
*Sigh* We all have insecurities, at least I know I do (I'm not ashamed to admit that). Having insecurities can be the worst thing to have in a relationship. If you're not secure with where you stand in a relationship, how can you have a successful relationship? You're always going to question his/her love; You'll have doubts and it will be hard to have faith in a future with him/her. I think insecurities go hand in hand with trust issues (sometimes).

Bad Communication Skills
How can you have a relationship when you can't communicate with each other? That's impossible. I want to feel comfortable expressing my feelings to my partner; I want my partner to be able to tell me anything. I look at my boyfriend as if he's my diary, so communication is a must for me. Without communication you can't solve your relationship problems, and if you can't solve your problems that will be the end of your relationship. Communication makes relationships so easy.

...I think another reason relationships fail is because people have to have a title. I must say I'm guilty of this. Even though I like having a title placed on my relationship, I'm willing to work to keep my title. Many people jump in a relationship but they're never willing to work for their relationship. Some people work so hard for the title but not for the relationship. Anything worth having is worth fighting for and let's be real some of us are not fighters (I am!).

There are so many reasons why relationships fail, and I don't think I'll be able to completely answer that question with one blog post. The next time one of your relationships come to an end, ask yourself why and try your best not to repeat the same mistakes, I know I won't.

Tumblr

Recently I have decided to make a blog on tumblr; I don't know why, but tumblr seemed like an interesting blogging website. I think I've been a tumblr member for a week now, but I'm not sure if I like it that much. I think tumblr is cool because you get to re blog, interact more with your followers, and there's a lot of people using tumblr instead of blog spot (that I know), so I get more followers, which means more people view my blog. The reason why I'm not such a big fan of tumblr is because it doesn't seem like a real blogging website; it seems like a wesbite for people to post pictures; Tumblr also reminds me of myspace and twitter. Don't get me wrong I love the pictures that are posted on the blogs on tumblr, but blogging isn't really about posting pictures, is it? I want to read something that I can relate to, something interesting, something that will make me think, and I haven't found that on tumblr; so for now I'll use tumblr as a way to get more people to view my blog on blog spot.

Fashion Fridays

I decided to make a special post every friday to try to keep my blog active; every friday I will post things I'm intrested in buying or things that I've already bought. I'm thinking about making a special post for everyday of the week so stay tuned!

Fashion Fridays (Bathing Suits)

I know today isn't friday, but I decided to post my first fashion friday post to give you a taste of fashion fridays. I'm thinking about buying these bathing suits, since I can’t find the one I bought 2 years ago for $80. One cost $120 and the other bathing suit cost $126; I live in NY so don’t forget taxes (YIKES!)

All is Fair In Love and War

— Proverb Meaning:
1. This idiom is used to say that where there is conflict; people can be expected to behave in a more vicious way.
2. People in love and soldiers in wartime are not bound by the rules of fair play.
3. When you are in love or waging war, you are allowed to be deceitful in order to get what you want.

Dear Future Husband

I’m not easy to love; I’m really complicated, I get jealous sometimes, I have insecurities because of my past relationships, and I’m overly sensitive and emotional; but I promise you no woman will ever love you the way I can…Why? Because the love I have for you is unconditional and everlasting. So yeah, I might be complicated, but my love for you is far from complicated…Why? Because you made falling in love with you so easy…How? Because you gave me true love, with your kisses, protective hugs, and motivating words. When things get ruff all we’ll need is God, faith, determination, and love.

P.S. My heart could be anywhere in the world but it rather spend a lifetime with you.

Love,
Brittany

(I hope to give this letter to my future husband one day)

Love Story

I Feel Good, I Feel Wonderful
And Thats Because, You Made It That Way
I Feel Super, Spectacular Because of You

And Now I’m Flying, I Think I’m Floating
I Feel So High, Your Love Takes Me To The Sky
If I Fall, I Wont Care Cuz I’m Safe With You

Cuz I’m In Love With Your Story
And I’m Love With Your Smell And Your Smile
So Keep On Lifting, I Won’t Stand In Your Way
Cuz I’m In Love With You

Questions of The Day?

Are relationships complicated?

I’ve been asking myself this question for a long time and I can’t figure it out! Sometimes I think being in a relationship is complicated, annoying, and frustrating; sometimes I think relationships aren’t all of the above, people just make them that way. When you’re in a relationship it’s no longer about you, it’s about you and your partner. Being in a relationship requires work and let’s be honest some of us aren’t hard workers. When you’re in a relationship you have to be open-minded, considerate and understanding of your partners feelings, which is HARD WORK. There’s no such thing as being selfish in a relationship. Relationships also require trust and communication; I’m able to communicate, but trusting someone other than myself is beyond complicated for me. Now I’m asking myself is it all worth it? (second ? of the day lol). That ? is easier for me to answer; when you’ve found someone that you truly love I guess it is. Hmm maybe relationships aren’t so complicated, I guess we just make them that way

The Body Mist

Victoria's Secret has a beauty line named "Body"; I bought "The Body Mist" today and fell in love. I love the way "The Body Mist" smells! I was so surprised that I found a body spray that I like! I'm not a fan of body sprays or perfumes, but I think I found my new scent! The 7.4 FL OZ is $20.00 and the 2.5 FL OZ is $10.00. I'm thinking about purchasing "The Body" lotion too!

Photo of The Week!

She's Beautiful and He's Deliciously Handsome! Lol

My Fairytale

I found this picture on google a few days ago and I fell in love with it! I absolutely love Edward Cullen and Bella Swan (Twilight), and this picture made me love them more than I already did. Looking at this picture sums up everything I want from love. I know Twilight isn't real, but who wouldn't want the type of love that twilight describes to all its readers. I want to be able to look at a man the way Bella looks at Edward; I want someone to hold me the way he holds her, so I can feel protected from my biggest fears; I want to feel sparks every time we kiss (we as in my future husband and I). I want him to look at me like I'm the only girl in the world. I love how they're willing to take risks for love. Thinking about it, I do have someone that does all of these things for me. He makes me smile through my saddest days, he builds me up when I feel like the world is tearing me down. He's secretly my best friend (I can tell him my deepest darkest secrets). He's my everything and more! My very own Edward Cullen lol

Basic Bullshit

When Ciara first came out I fell in love with her. I loved her height, her shape, the way she danced, and of course her music. Her first 2 albums played over and over on my iPod. For some reason I never bought her 3rd album, not because I thought it was corny, I just didn't buy it. When her 4th album came out I decided I wasn't going to buy it, but yesterday I changed my mind. After listening to 11 tracks on her new album I was completely disappointed. Ciara told Pete Lewis of Blues & Soul magazine, that the album "is really about her trusting her instinct and going back to the R&B/urban basics in her music – like where she first started, in the days of "Goodies" and "1, 2 Step". Basic Instinct is far from where she first started; It's the worse album I've purchased on iTunes. I thought she was going to make a comeback (since she claimed she was going back to her roots), but obviously she didn't. Save your money and save your time, don't buy this album!

Bad Girls Club!

Less than an hour and "The Bad Girls Club" Season 6 will premiere! Yay! I am so excited. Last season was full of drama; I'm extra excited to see what will happen this season. My favorite season of BGC has to be season 2,3, and 4! I hope this season isn't filled with a whole bunch of "Natalie Nunn's wannabes". Tonight I expect to see women with their own personalities. I love the drama but I want to see more than fighting. Last season it was impossible to have a favorite member, everyday someone went home. If you never watch the BGC, which I find impossible, make sure you watch it tonight! I'm pretty sure you won't want to miss this!

Meet The Cast!

Natural Hair

There's a new trend going on, it’s called "Natural Hair". A lot of females are saying goodbye to their weaves/perms, and saying hello to natural hair. I'm a big lover of perms and weave, mainly weave. I went 3 years without a perm, which pushed me into wearing weave. To each is own, but natural hair is not for me. If I decide I don't want to wear weave anymore, I'll perm my natural hair. As of now I have permed my hair and I'm giving my extensions a break. I refuse to walk around looking like Celie from the color purple; I also think that fros or however u wear your hair when it is not permed always looks tacky. I'm being very judgmental right now, but hey this is my blog and I can say what I want!

3 Letter Word

Am I the only one that thinks sex is overrated!? Well if I am, SO WHAT! I hate that some females have lost morals that we once had years ago! I've never understood how some teenagers and young adults have so many sexual partners. Some females don't carry themselves with respect; sleeping around is the new trend. I enjoy sex; I enjoy sex as much as I do because I share those intimate moments with the person that I love. No, I didn't save myself for marriage, but I want to make sure that my husband doesn't end up sharing me with the world. If I was a man I would never want to marry a woman that has "been around". As women we need to realize there's more to us than sex; women have more to give a man than just her body. Do you realize that? because I sure do!

Hangover

Ugh! Hangovers are the worse! I never had one before yesterday, so when I woke up feeling sick and dizzy I thought I had eaten something bad. My stomach was killing me, I think I threw up four times. I ate eggs thinking it would make me feel better, but that just made the feeling in my stomach worse. Since I've never dealt with a hangover, google became my best friend. I googled "How to get rid of a hangover" and did everything that was listed on the website; an hour later I was feeling so much better. I would say I'm never drinking again, but I'll be lying; next time I plan on monitoring the amount of alcohol I consume in one night, I'm not trying to have another hangover (YES! it was that bad).

Happy New Year

Last night was filled with laughs, friends, family, and liquor. I got off of work at 9pm, went home, got my clothes and headed to my cousin's house. We watched 106 & party, while drinking and laughing at anything and everything. After we yelled 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, HAPPY NEW YEAR!, we got dressed and took a cab to Club Gravity. Thanks to my cousin, I spent half of my night dancing and having fun in V.I.P. Thanks to those Long Island Ice Teas and whatever else I drank, I spent the other half of my night in the bathroom. For someone that drank as much as I did, I must say I handled myself pretty well. I did end up calling my love telling him how much I love him and kept him up all night, shame on me. I enjoyed this new year a lot! I normally stay home and drink egg nog, this year was completely different. I will continue to strive for success as much as I did in 2010, in 2011. This is a new year, so hopefully I will be blessed with some new and exciting adventures!

Here's 1 photo from last night, me and my twin cousin Jaleesa (that's my cousin Laurice in the back and the arm you see is my cousin Constance lol)