Failed Relationships

I was on the phone with one of my friends today and she asked a question that most of us can’t answer, why do relationships fail? I don’t know how most of you would answer this, if you could, but I think relationships come to an end because of unrealistic expectations, trust issues, insecurities, and bad communication skills.

Unrealistic Expectations
Many people get into relationships thinking it will solve all their problems (come on we all know that is not realistic). Some people get into relationships expecting everything to happen the way they want it to, but life doesn't work like that, neither does relationships. We put so much time and energy into a relationship that if things don't go as planned we begin to feel betrayed and take it out on our partners. The way someone is raised as a child can also lead to having unrealistic expectations in a relationship; you see an example of true love from your parents and expect to have the same type of relationship that they had. Many people also look for someone to fulfill their needs and when those needs are not fulfilled they are no longer happy in their relationship.

Trust Issues
It's impossible to have a relationship without trust. Trust is the foundation of a relationship; without trust your relationship is doomed from the beginning to the end. It's hard to build trust if your heart was once broken, but we have to try to leave the past in the past to build a better future (easier said than done, trust me I know). There's no way to avoid having trust in a relationship; if you can't trust your partner that's a sign, it's over, no need to be in a relationship without trust.

Insecurities
*Sigh* We all have insecurities, at least I know I do (I'm not ashamed to admit that). Having insecurities can be the worst thing to have in a relationship. If you're not secure with where you stand in a relationship, how can you have a successful relationship? You're always going to question his/her love; You'll have doubts and it will be hard to have faith in a future with him/her. I think insecurities go hand in hand with trust issues (sometimes).

Bad Communication Skills
How can you have a relationship when you can't communicate with each other? That's impossible. I want to feel comfortable expressing my feelings to my partner; I want my partner to be able to tell me anything. I look at my boyfriend as if he's my diary, so communication is a must for me. Without communication you can't solve your relationship problems, and if you can't solve your problems that will be the end of your relationship. Communication makes relationships so easy.

...I think another reason relationships fail is because people have to have a title. I must say I'm guilty of this. Even though I like having a title placed on my relationship, I'm willing to work to keep my title. Many people jump in a relationship but they're never willing to work for their relationship. Some people work so hard for the title but not for the relationship. Anything worth having is worth fighting for and let's be real some of us are not fighters (I am!).

There are so many reasons why relationships fail, and I don't think I'll be able to completely answer that question with one blog post. The next time one of your relationships come to an end, ask yourself why and try your best not to repeat the same mistakes, I know I won't.